I have been asked how I have managed to endure life with Samantha with such a good attitude and relative sanity. I feel this is a good subject to cover.
Samantha was born brain damaged as a result of a car accident when I was 6 months pregnant. I had tried for 11 years to get pregnant. I had to take fertility drugs to finally become pregnant with her. When she was born, she was blue from lack of oxygen and spent 3 weeks in intensive care.
At that time, I had not found my current belief system. My Christian friend’s comments were ‘God did this to her.’ ‘You are being punished for something.’ etc. Needless to say I was very angry with God and turned my back on my Spirituality for many years. I cursed God, spent a lot of time crying, I had numerous nervous breakdowns.
When Samantha was 3, I felt a yearning to find my spirituality again and began to study different belief systems. I knew I could not go back to a God who would harm my child. When I learned about reincarnation, it was such a relief! The idea that Samantha had chosen this life to learn lessons was so comforting to me. Knowing that this was not the only life she would ever experience was also comforting.
When Samantha began having pneumonia at least twice monthly when she was 7, on the brink of death each time, it was very difficult for me. Getting through those years was not at all easy. I did a lot of crying and questioning of why I chose to experience this. It was not easy. I used the healing techniques I was learning to work on my issues. The ‘Energetic Clearing Technique’ helped me a lot. Just when I thought I had worked through an issue, another aspect of it would be brought to the surface. I wondered many times how I would survive another day.
The one thing that I learned from those trying times was that no matter how horrible things seemed in my life, I could always find someone who was experiencing something worse. I learned that as bad as things were, I was learning and growing through the experience. I learned to be thankful for the opportunities to grow.
Most of us experience adversity in our lives in one way or another at some point. Whether it is a death, the illness of a loved one, losing a job, any number of things. We have a choice of how we handle these experiences. We can let the experience totally consume us and destroy us, or we can choose to transcend it.
Martha Washington said it quite nicely, “I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances.”
I could have so easily allowed Samantha’s health problems to destroy me. I could have sat around feeling sorry for myself. I am not saying that I have not had my share of ‘pity parties’, because I have. I just did not allow them to last very long.
Now, I do not panic when Samantha comes close to death. I have learned to allow her to live her life and experience what she has chosen to experience. It has taken me a long time and a lot of healing to reach this point.
If you are experiencing an adversity in your life, give yourself time to deal with your emotions and use the Energetic Clearing Technique to heal your emotional issues attached to it. Remember that ‘this too shall pass.’ Nothing stays the same and eventually everything changes. Be thankful for the opportunity to learn and grow.
copyright November 2003
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